King Arthur / Lancelot Syndrome

Love gives and gives some more... Lust takes and takes some more. 

I will always show my support and you can count on me to what you say is important to you. Why do you think  you should treat me differently? Why is what is important to me not matter to you? That is not fair. Be fair

Most  women have what I call the King Arthur, Lancelot syndrome. You stay with Arthur as he brings the highest most noblest ideas and goals from our lives and helps guide them to fruition. We must have this . This is essential to our brain functions and hearts to function well. The ONE. The one who you know if you were sick would carry you, wipe you, feed you love you, sail a thousand ships for you. Arthur.

Then there is Lancelot. You know the one you are drawn to... that insatiable power, desire to be one with him. He can  have some Arthur qualities but your body mind must have this man. Often is preferable and possible.

So herein lies the conflict with many of us women. How can we ever be happy with both? Can we have both? 

Men do it all the time. They have Mistress they bang but will not leave their wives. Some actually respect both, each has their function. Problems occur when one attempts  to step away from the  role she has agreed to play and now wants to be the wife, or the wife tries to act like the mistress.

The same rules  apply to us as women with the King Arthur-Lancelot syndrome.  Which one do we choose? Which one will gives us ultimate happiness? While waiting for Mr. Both do we accept our fates and throw  the towel for the good guy in and  play with the bad boy? 

Here are some life rules that will help. Lancelot is not the bad boy. In fact he gives you a sense of calm and pleasure as essential to your well being as understanding is.Can you have both? Yes. Treat Arthur like the bad boy ( if you are attracted to him ). A smart man is easier to convince than one who thinks primarily with their loins . Get him to play ball (LOL) . Change the frequency up a bit.

It will be easier to convince a smart good man to be more like your lover than to get Lancelot to convert to best friend ,smart man mode.  

You can if you wish be risky and have both. Arthur will not take well if he finds out. Lancelot hates himself in the morning but bangs you over again. 

While healing from this syndrome we as women must remember that men have been doing this for centuries. They are good at it. We are just taking baby steps to getting what we want and need.

History has shown that King  Henry made all efforts to make Ann Boleyn his queen , which is what she wanted. And? off came the neck anyway. 

How badly do you want Lancelot that you will risk losing Arthur? Only you can make that decision.